There are many unrelated items on the news this morning, yet all are connected on a deeper level.
· A father accused of setting fire to his home, which killed six of his children, did not wash for twelve weeks and lived with his wife and his mistress.
· Pregnant Palestine women have admitted smuggling their husband's sperm out of jail.
· People give their account of living a celibate life.
We are all different. To deny our sexuality would remove a part of being human. Western society dwells on the huge importance of the search for a romantic life partner. Giving up the idea is a huge sacrifice. Modern life is about sex and the individual. People in past centuries were either married, in which case they could have sex, or celibate if they were not. Now the options are more varied.
Still others choose to abstain from sex in their role of devoting their life to God or for personal reasons. See twelve revelations here.
Some choose a partner for life and vow to remain true—often failing. I made a similar choice when I married at nineteen years of age. For twenty-seven years, I remained with my husband until I was forced to leave to save myself. I can keep my vow in my final marriage of over twenty years.
To the purists, celibacy, derived from the Latin for unmarried, means a permanent state of being without sex. Abstinence can be temporary. And it's possible to be abstinent in a relationship. True celibacy means a life without both sex and a spouse or partner. Of course, there are many who give it a looser definition—indicating some sort of commitment to be without sex.
Often, celibacy is thrust upon men via loss of libido. If they're not ready for life's sentence, they try medical aids and counseling to regain their vigor.
Studies show that men are driven by testosterone to want sex. Women are driven to a lesser degree by a mixture of testosterone and estrogen. Given these facts, perhaps celibacy is a totally abnormal state.
Gandhi quote: Spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul.