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11/19/2013

 
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Esther Rantzen, a mature television presenter, has set up a helpline for lonely pensioners. And with Christmas approaching, Miss Rantzen is only too aware that this is the loneliest time for some of the UK’s 10 million people now over 65. With this in mind she is rolling out The Silver Line, a 24-hour helpline service aimed at elderly people who are struggling to cope with loneliness, nationally on Monday November 25. Having successfully set up the ChildLine telephone service, for worried children, Miss Rantzen knew providing a similar service for the elderly would prove just as helpful.

But it's not just at Christmastime that elderly people feel a sense of loss. All year round, many people struggle daily to find some purpose in their lives, especially those without close family ties. The Silver Line has been running for a year, but now the service is to be set up nationwide.


 Talking about her decision to set up the service she said in a new interview with the Radio Times: ‘Recently I received a letter from Ellen, clearly a clever woman who has brought up a family and held a responsible job, and yet who feels that in her old age “my days are pointless and I’m a waste of space”.

‘Reading it, I felt a surge of anger. Something must be done to assure our older population that they are valued. We must reach out to them, link them back into their communities, and convince them that older people are a resource, a national treasure. There must be no sell-by date, no moment when older people become rubbish to be discarded, thrown away. Loneliness is, according to the Department of Health, as dangerous physically as smoking or obesity. Mentally and emotionally, it is utterly destructive.

‘This is the generation that does not readily ask for help. They don’t want to be a burden. Loneliness is a creeping enemy, it isolates, erodes confidence, until it becomes more and more difficult to step outside the front door.’

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Each one of us had a mother and a father. If they were good to us, we know how precious they are—how irreplaceable. My parents lived to their mid. 80s and I'd abandoned them in Australia when I left for England. My siblings took good care of them, and I wrote on a regular basis. I'm forever grateful that I took a trip back to see them one last time before they died.

But, now I'm facing a time of uncertainty in my later years. Separated from family and the grandchildren I never had a chance to know, I'm redundant. Despite living with the disability of not being able to walk without pain, I write, which gives me a sense of fulfillment. You'll see my published books on the sidebar. I've vowed to never have another operation—they go wrong. Besides that, what is the point at my age? I'm not a working member of society. I won't bother a busy doctor with my disturbing weakness. My husband takes care of me—at the moment. I'd rather not face what will happen in the future if he should be struck down.

Bravo to Esther Rantzen for setting up this Silver Line for all those people who feel alone and just need to talk to someone. I don't know what it's like in your country, but I hope you appreciate all the knowledge that an older person can share, given encouragement.


Sophie Bowns link
11/18/2013 07:14:54 pm

Oh what a brilliant idea! I really like Esther Rantzen she seems like a genuine person and all credit to her for coming up with this idea :)
The feeling of loneliness is a horrible one, kind of an aching which doesn't go away and no-one should have to spend Christmas alone!

Francene Stanley link
11/19/2013 02:35:29 am

There really are some people in the world who care about others.

Karin Copperwood link
11/18/2013 09:01:25 pm

It is wonderful to know that we are never alone!

Rick Bylina
11/19/2013 03:16:53 am

Facing our futures without our support system is frightening. But it is better to face that fear while still having all our faculties than face it when we are in a grieving state or when our capacity for rational thought has escaped out into the cold like the heat of the fireplace. Being childless, and Sydney, our 22-y-o cockatiel doesn't count, we have examined old age like Judy Collins' examined clouds. We have a plan, and we constantly re-examine it. Plan. It's hard to imagine the worst case scenario, but it's even harder to live through it without a plan. Best wishes and words.

Francene Stanley link
11/19/2013 06:43:58 pm

You're right about putting plenty of forethought into your future. Some things have to be worked out. We have plenty of plans in place. It's just a lack of companionship that would tear apart the fabric of my everyday life.

Alana link
11/19/2013 07:29:25 am

My husband has a first cousin, in her late 60's, who is battling her second cancer. She never married, has no children, and cared for both her parents (both lived into their 90's and her father had Alzheimer's). She has one sibling,who lives halfway across our large country. She was there for her parents; I wonder who will be there for her? She's built a support network of friends-I hope it is enough. I shared this post on Facebook - you ask good, powerful questions. Francene, I hope you continue to blog and find a way for your blog to help you towards your goals.

Francene Stanley link
11/19/2013 06:45:45 pm

That's a sad situation for your relative to face. There must be so many others who anticipate the same future. Thank you for your kind wishes, Alana.


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    Born in Australia, I moved to Britain half way through my long life.

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